Letting Go of Other People’s Expectations

A preface before I get to the main point of this post:

I believe the last time I posted to Dr. Irene’s TFB (“The Friendship Blog” – under my name of “Eagle Wings”) was around June 22 or 23, 2012.

I noticed when I stopped by TFB around June 23. 2012, that someone was pretending to be me under the “Anonymous” name. Those posts were not by me. Since I have not been back to TFB since June 2012 (not even to lurk), if anyone is posting as me there (especially under the name “Anonymous”), they are a phony and a fake.

Please be sure to read the most important post at this blog:
A Warning About The Friendship Blog – Toxic – Unfriendly Bullied Bullies Trolls Dr Irene S Levine

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Letting Go of Other People’s Expectations


A post by Maria Shriver, “Letting Go of Other People’s Expectations

Here are excerpts:

How are other people’s expectations holding you back from being a strong, successful woman? These five tips for letting go of expectations are based on inspiration from Maria Shriver, journalist and author of Just Who Will You Be?: Big Question. Little Book. Answer Within.

Here’s what she said at the Annual Women’s Conference:

“As long as I was trying to anticipate what people wanted from me, as long as I was trying to fulfill other people’s expectations, I was in a losing game,” said Shriver in 2007. ”That’s what I want to focus on…letting go of other people’s expectations of you so you can own your own life, write your own story and live your own legacy.”

1. Figure out which person wants what for your life. Maybe you’re applying for grad school or trying to lose 10 pounds — who is the source of your goals? Do you feel pushed into a life, job, marriage, or routine by other people? Are you forcing yourself to be someone you’re not? To let go of other people’s expectations, determine who wants what in your life.

2. After you get real with yourself, get real with others. As hard as it is to express your true thoughts and feelings to other people (short-term pain), it’s even harder to live with the consequences of living up to other people’s expectations (long-term pain!). It takes practice to get and stay authentic…but the more you do it, the easier it gets.

3. Expect backlash from people who have their own agenda. You better believe people will squawk if you no longer pick up the slack at work, do the dishes every night, or cover for your fellow committee members! Let ‘em complain. Let ‘em get mad. They’ll eventually get over it. You can even commiserate and agree with them: “You’re right – everyone does have to do extra now that I’m not doing X all the time.”