Why You Should De Friend Your Ex Friend on Facebook

Quite often the advice one sees for romantic partners can also apply to platonic friends. I think this is another example:

Why You Should Defriend Your Ex on Facebook

Breakups suck. Whether it was a peaceful or crazy split, trying to get over your former man [or platonic friend] will be hard. Want to move on fast? Defriend him [or her] on Facebook.

By Dara Adeeyo

According to a new study from the Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking journal, keeping tabs on your ex’s life online will keep you kinda hooked on him [or her]. In the study, researchers evaluated the Facebook usage, emotional recovery, and personal judgement of 464 participants after they went through a breakup. The results were totally shocking.

Study participants who kept tabs on their exes, felt more upset about their breakup than those who didn’t. Researchers also discovered that Facebook, uh, stalking an ex basically makes you feel as crappy as you would if you were forced to hang with him as “just friends” on a regular basis.

Bottom line: Taking a look at what your ex is up to is just not a good idea if you want to move on.

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Please be sure to read the most important post at this blog:
A Warning About The Friendship Blog – Toxic – Unfriendly Bullied Bullies Trolls Dr Irene S Levine

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Annoying Habit of Females : They Ignore or Dump Female Friends When They Get Married or Get a Boyfriend

Please be sure to read the most important post at this blog:
A Warning About The Friendship Blog – Toxic – Unfriendly Bullied Bullies Trolls Dr Irene S Levine

I have not visited or posted to Dr Levine’s “Friendship” blog since around June 22/23 of 2012. Anyone posting there under my name, or pretending to be me under the name “Anonymous” after that time, is a liar – and a few were already posting as me prior to that date, so you can’t trust all those posts, either (the “Anonymous” ones).
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This is from a dating advice article, but at least one part of it is applicable to female friendships. I have known women, mostly when I was in my teens and 20s, who were on fairly good terms with me, but who would begin ignoring me once they got a boyfriend (or got married). It’s very annoying behavior. This article below tells women of all ages to STOP DOING THIS. Stop placing your boyfriend or husband as the only focal point in your life, stop ignoring your female friends.

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/7-behaviors-keeping-single-133900462.html
by GalTime.com

(To read the entire page please click here)

6. LOSING YOURSELF: Something that I see very often is that once a woman starts dating a guy that she’s interested in, she forgets her friends and the life she had before meeting him. For example, have you ever had plans with your girlfriends, but immediately dropped your girlfriends because your new guy invited you out on a date? Men (and people in general) are attracted to people who have a well-rounded life full and are more appreciative of you and your time when you fit them into your schedule.

Solution: Don’t make your life revolve around his life. Don’t be afraid to have a life of your own.

Article about Friends Breaking Up with Friends and Advice on How to Do It

Please be sure to read the most important post at this blog:
A Warning About The Friendship Blog – Toxic – Unfriendly Bullied Bullies Trolls


It’s Not Me, It’s You [A page about friendship break ups, from The New York Times]

If you would like to read the whole page, please click on that link.

Comments left by visitors to the page, which appear at the bottom of it, are also illuminating.

I see some of the same bitterness there by women that I saw at Dr. Irene’s “Friendship Blog.” Some women cannot handle or accept that a friend has broken up with them, or that friendship break ups are a part of life, so they become very bitter, angry people.

Here are a few high lights from the page:

    by Alex Williams
    January 28, 2012

    ….Not so in the real world. Even though research shows that it is natural, and perhaps inevitable, for people to prune the weeds from their social groups as they move through adulthood, those who actually attempt to defriend in real life find that it often plays out like a divorce in miniature — a tangle of awkward exchanges, made-up excuses, hurt feelings and lingering ill will.

    ….People start “dropping ‘starter friends’ from the early bachelor days, or early work associates, or early couples with little children like yours,” said Mr. Horchow, who wrote “The Art of Friendship: 70 Simple Rules for Making Meaningful Connections”…

    Psychologists consider it an inevitable life stage, a point where people achieve enough maturity and self-awareness to know who they are and what they want out of their remaining years, and have a degree of clarity about which friends deserve full attention and which are a drain. It is time, in other words, to shed people they collected in their youth, when they were still trying on friends for size.
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